Sunday, April 22, 2012

一名应届高中生谈大学申请---(VV) Results & Conclusion

Results:

Remember at any point during the college process that it is a stressful time for everyone. Don’t be the person that publicly disparages his/her safety school, only to find out that it’s a friend’s top choice. And be gracious about your acceptances and your rejections. Just as in sports, character is shown in both victory and defeat.
I do offer some articles that I think will be of solace upon rejection:

http://mitadmissions.org/blogs/entry/its_more_than_a_job
http://mitadmissions.org/blogs/entry/blearyeyed
http://www.boston.com/bostonglobe/editorial_opinion/oped/articles/2008/03/10/the_college_rejection_letter/

Conclusion:

Well, that’s all I have to say. I hope that what I’ve written here has been helpful and informative, and I wish you the best of luck with your applications and results! If the advice here was helpful to you, please remember to pass it on to next year’s students!

一名应届高中生谈大学申请---(IVV) Recommendations & Interview

Recommendations:

This part is pretty simple I think. Ask teachers with whom you have a good relationship, ones that hopefully have something more to write than: “Sally was a great kid in my class and always got good grades and helped others.” Also pick teachers that write well. As I said before, you’re being judged on the content of these words. In all honesty, the teacher recommendation is probably not going to have a major effect on the strength of your application, but it still does merit your attention. And don’t forget that your guidance counselor also submits a recommendation for you. You may want to ask him/her to include in that letter anything special about your high school circumstances (scheduling difficulties that prevented you from taking four years of language, special school awards you didn’t have space for on the application, etc.) Also, I think it’s a good idea to ask one math/science teacher and one humanities teacher, probably from your junior year in high school. The balancing of subjects shows that you’re well-rounded, and is even required by some schools such as MIT. And junior teachers have had you more recently and in general for more advanced classes.

Finally, please take the time to thank the teachers that wrote recommendations for you, ideally with something more personal than just an email.

Interview:

There is nothing that I could say here that hasn’t already been said by someone else on College Confidential. I know for a fact that there are entire consolidated threads devoted to tips on the subject, so I really won’t say anymore here. Just be prepared to answer some friendly questions (though some really are thought-provoking) and demonstrate why you want to go that school. Also, if possible, have some questions ready for the interviewer about the school, you don’t want the interview to be entirely one sided! For the large majority of people, the interview really isn’t going to swing your application one way or another. You’ll probably have a nice conversation with an alumnus in a coffee shot, very low-key and informal, really nothing to worry about. Of course, do take care to avoid being in the small group of applicants for which the interview is a negative on their application…

一名应届高中生谈大学申请---(VII) Test Scores

Test Scores:

I’m not going to be offering any tips on how to score higher on the tests here. There exists a multitude of College Confidential threads and an industry devoted to helping you with that. So I’ll stick to tips on getting through the not-so-fun process. (Though I will say that the service Academic Approach: http://www.academicapproach.com/online/ is apparently used at Exeter and comes recommended, if you’re looking for a class of some sort).

一名应届高中生谈大学申请---(VII) Extracurriculars & Awards

Extracurriculars & Awards:

Here, the adage of quality not quantity really is true. It’s not about joining a million clubs. It’s about having a couple of things that you’re truly passionate about, that you can hopefully show great success in. The Common App is very brief, giving you precious little space to describe all your awards and positions. It’s about presenting yourself in the best possible light in the smallest amount of space. Just like when you’re writing a job resume, you want to make your accomplishments clear with maximum effect. Know how to use abbreviations well, but stick to ones that are common knowledge (capt) or ones that will be the first result on Google.

On the subject of an additional resume, I advise against it if all you’re going to do is elaborate on your extracurriculars. The readers probably know what things like debate team and student council are like, and aren’t likely to be super happy that you just enclosed a one page rehash of your Common App. I would however include additional information if there’s something that doesn’t fit on the application nicely, a cool summer program you went to, a unique extracurricular you have, something of that nature that would enhance your application is worth including. If you are doing so, remember to keep it short and sweet. I would suggest less than one page, tastefully typeset.

一名应届高中生谈大学申请---(VI) High School Transcript:

High School Transcript:

I think in the frenzy of writing college applications, many people forget how important your high school transcript is. I’ve heard admissions presenters say that it is the first thing they look at, the most important part of your application folder, which really does make sense. You’re applying to college based on the strength of your academic resume (unless you’re recruited for athletic or musical ability). And what better place to judge that strength than on your transcript? I think it’s a reliever to realize that one of the biggest components of your application is already “done,” formed by the hard work you’ve done throughout your high school career. Of course, this means that you do need to keep up that hard work, even through the end of junior year and onto senior year. Also, make sure to select a challenging set of courses senior year, since colleges do see all the way up until your senior year first semester grades (unless you apply early).

一名应届高中生谈大学申请---(V) Essays and Supplements

Essays and Supplements:

I believe very strongly that these are by far the most important part of the application at the HYPSM schools. Their applicant pools consist of thousands upon thousands of students with stellar scores and grades. Sure, there are those who cured cancer and such and are a cut above the rest. But by and large, the pool is full of people with great achievements. Unfortunately, each reader only has so many applicants they can fight for in committee. They’re going to pick the ones they personally connected with. And how do you show your personality? It’s your essay. Like it or not, you’re being judged by your reader, and in my opinion, the largest part of that judgment comes from the essays. It’s within those 500 words and supplements that the reader forms an idea of you in their head. Sure, it’s not fair, because you’re so much more than can be presented in such a short essay. But it’s how the process works.

There’s so much advice out there about writing the college essay, so I’m going to be brief here. Basically, you want to communicate to them that you’re a wonderful person, that you would make a good addition to that school’s community. How you go about doing so is of course your own choice.
Logistically, my biggest piece of advice is to start early!! If possible, begin brainstorming the August before your senior year or something. You want to spend a lot of time selecting the right topic, and that certainly isn’t going to happen if you start writing in October. Whatever your normal brainstorming process is, just spend a lot of time doing it. Also, there are some helpful starting questions online if you search around. Regarding editing, I’m not a big believer in getting a bunch of feedback. I would ask a few trusted friends and maybe your parents and teachers for some honest comments. Perhaps get together one afternoon and have an essay editing party or something! Remember to never let the essay become the creation of someone else. Don’t be afraid to ignore comments and edits, if they aren’t what you want to say, or aren’t your style. It’s you that they’re judging, so it’s you that should be presented. Of course, your friends and others can let you know that perhaps you’re not presenting the best side of yourself to be judged…

For general help, these two posts were amongst the best I encountered during my writing process:

http://mitadmissions.org/blogs/entry/the_college_essay_yogurt_editi
http://mitadmissions.org/blogs/entry/show_dont_tell_the_college_ess

The book 50 Successful Harvard Application Essays also merits a read for some examples.
Also, don’t forget the extracurricular supplement part. Realize that the readers will see a million essays about tutoring, debate team, math league, orchestra, and those sorts of things. So in order to truly stand out, you have to either have a unique activity, or present it in a novel light.
Finally, there are the dreaded supplements. I was frankly pretty bad at writing these, so not sure my advice is particularly good. One learns in laziness to shape already written essays to fit prompts, to reuse and recycle writing really well. But I would very much advise against this. Take the time to consider and write from the prompt. The readers will know if you’ve forced an essay to fit, and that doesn’t reflect positively on your level of enthusiasm for the school.

一名应届高中生谈大学申请---(IV) Application Reading Process

Application Reading Process:

Now we reach the meat of the matter, the actual applications process. But before considering each portion of an application folder, I think it’s important to realize how the actual reading of those applications works on the other side (if only for curiosity’s sake):

http://mitadmissions.org/blogs/entry/reading_folders
http://mitadmissions.org/apply/process/selection
http://www.businessweek.com/magazine/content/06_34/b3998441.htm
http://www.bostonmagazine.com/articles/keys_to_the_kingdom/
http://blogs.princeton.edu/reelmudd/2011/04/dean-fred-hargadon-on-princeton-admissions-circa-1990.html

一名应届高中生谈大学申请---(III) College Selection & Strategy

College Selection & Strategy:

Before you even begin writing your applications, you have to decide where you actually want to send those precious words. It’s really a crucial beginning to the college process, one that you certainly shouldn’t treat lightly!

Basically, my primary piece of advice is VISIT!! Nothing can replace the first feeling you get when you step onto a campus, whether positive or negative. And make sure you get the most out of your visit when you are there. Definitely try to visit during a good time in the school’s calendar (not during their break or finals week for example). If possible, meet up with someone you know who attends the university, so you can get a student perspective and also visit some of the more private areas (dorms, dining halls, etc.). Sure, you’re there to get that first impression, listen to an admissions presentation, and take the guided tour. But you also want to really get a sense of the school. And I think the best way of doing that is actually talking with real students. Most people (provided they are friends of yours) would be happy to show you around for half an hour or something. Of course, visiting doesn’t replace research. You should have a general idea of how residential and academic life work at each of the colleges, something you can get a sense of through places like College Confidential and College Prowler. Oftentimes it’s the non-academic things (housing structure, location, etc.) that really make you love a school.

In all likelihood, you’ll start with a pretty long list of colleges, which then needs to be slowly pared down. Pick the ones that you actually would want to go to. Not because of the name or the prestige, but because you visited, or looked them up online, and feel in love with their location, their students, their classes, something. Even amongst your safety schools, pick the ones that you would be happy going to (ones that hopefully also offer lots of merit aid!). The key is having balanced slate of schools, some safeties, some “matches,” and some reaches. And in each category, the schools you pick should be ones that you love.

In selecting the number of schools to apply to, there are two differing opinions to balance. On one hand, college applications cost a tremendous amount in effort and money. Between the application fee, score reports, and other stuff, it will likely work out to around $100 a school. And the mountain of supplements will take forever to get through. But on the other hand, you don’t want to be left with regret afterwards, asking yourself what would’ve happened had you applied to that other “reach” school. No one can decide what the right balance is for you, how many you should apply to is a choice that you must make.

Part of the overall strategy for minimizing the number of applications is using your early application abilities well. I most certainly recommend applying to at least one of your schools early. For most schools, applying ED gives you somewhat of an admissions edge, while applying EA doesn’t (though this is still hotly debated). Also consider that some schools are SCEA and some schools aren’t. You can apply to MIT, UChicago, and CalTech all early together, or pick just one of HYPS. Choosing that early school is a delicate proposition. The “lower” on your list you go, the more likely you are to be accepted, so the more likely you are to avoid applications to schools lower on the list (“safeties”). But the flip side is wanting to hear from your top choice early, and possibility of being done with this hellish process in December. It’s a decision you have to consider and make for yourself.

一名应届高中生谈大学申请---(II) Overall Advice (ZT)

Overall Advice:

You’re probably going to hear this from a lot of people in the next year or two, but really, don’t stress out. It sounds like hollow reassurance when you’re in the process, I know. But honestly, there’s no benefit to needlessly working yourself into a state of panic. All you can do is present yourself to the best of your ability and hope for the best. And in all likelihood, you will end up somewhere you are happy, where you can enjoyably spend four years of your life.
But of course, don’t go to the other extreme and be too lax about things. There are a lot of deadlines and a million little things to keep track of with college applications, from essays to test scores to financial aid documents (of which there seem to be a million…). If you don’t make a conscious effort to organize yourself, you’re probably going to forget something, which would be highly unfortunate. Even if it seems like you’re managing at the beginning, I still recommend that you make some sort of calendar (paper or electronic) just to ensure nothing is missed. I would also advise you to make a (professional) email for all your college stuff, and keep track of all your account usernames and passwords. Nothing worse than realizing the day decisions are released that you can’t access your account…

At any point in the college admissions process, remember that colleges are not judging you as a person. They’re judging what you put forward as an applicant, your essays, extracurricular activities, recommendations, etc. They are making their decisions based on a reading of your application folder. So you need and must strive to present yourself as best you can in that folder.

Also, when you are thinking about the college process, please do use common sense. Does it make sense that a B+ in gym would automatically disqualify you from Harvard? No (I can personally attest to this…). But does it make sense that admissions counselors will judge you against other applicants from your school? Probably. As applicants, we really don’t know what’s going on behind those closed doors. But I think it’s important to remember that admissions counselors aren’t some secret cult, minions subject to the will of an evil master, or a soulless machine. They’re living and breathing human beings who are really no different from the rest of us. Sure, there are tricks of the trade, but by and large I’d like to think that they read and judge people just like the rest of us do.

Finally, I ask that you read a couple of MIT blog posts to get yourself into a mindset which I believe will be helpful to the process. Sure, some of what is written here is a little sugar-coated admissions propaganda, but
I think the underlying philosophy is sound:
http://mitadmissions.org/blogs/entry/applying_sideways
http://mitadmissions.org/blogs/entry/its-not-fair
http://mitadmissions.org/blogs/entry/the-difficulty-with-data
http://mitadmissions.org/blogs/entry/diversity-or-merit

一名应届高中生谈大学申请---(I)Author's Note

绿洲红叶: 儿子这两天独自去学校的admitted students days,我有点时间,整理他以前发给我的邮件,看到3周前送给他朋友们的一个附件,贴上来供将要申请大学孩子参考。

Author’s Note:
Greetings everyone! For those of you reading this who don’t know me, my name is 。。。. I haven’t yet decided my plans for next year, though I know I’ll be attending one of the schools。。。… The following is a collection of random advice regarding the college process, a “guide” of sorts that I hope you will find helpful. First, a couple of background things:
I’ve written this guide out of a desire to be helpful to those applying for college, with no expectation of financial gain or other return, so I ask that if you are making use of this resource that you do not under any circumstances pass the words or writing here off as your own, or attempt to sell this guide for monetary gain. I do encourage you to share this document with your friends, as it was intended to help people!

In all likelihood, by the time you’re reading this I’ll be a very busy and stressed college student, so I may not have time to response to individual inquiries. That being said, I still welcome questions, comments, thanks, criticism, whatever, which can be sent to me via Facebook. Also, if you do feel so compelled, 。。。I urge you to show your appreciation for this guide by 。。。 an organization that I am proud to be part of

Know that this document is primarily written for those aiming for HYPSM-level schools (Harvard, Yale, Princeton, Stanford, and MIT), and therefore contains advice aimed at a specific group of students, though it should be helpful for anyone.
Also, remember that much of what is stated here is just my opinion. College admissions is by and large a non-transparent process, and much of what we can say about it is only conjecture. And really, your conjecture is as good as mine!

Several times in this guide I will reference College Confidential, a forum dedicated to college admissions discussion. Firstly, know that their search engine is absolutely horrid, so just Google what you need to find with “site: talk.collegeconfidential.com” appended. Secondly, there are a lot of caveats about using CC. It’s in large part a highly concentrated group of anxiety-plagued high school seniors and juniors who put forward information that is sometimes just false. Don’t fall into the trap of reading decision pages, believing the trolls, or compulsively following the SAT forum. Just use it as a resource, to look through interview advice threads or check-up on a form or a deadline.

I also link to MIT Admissions Blogs a lot. Of all the colleges I researched, their page was by far the most helpful. They actually take the time to make their process a little more transparent, to humanize college admissions, and for that I think they deserve a lot of credit. It’s a philosophy that I wish were repeated elsewhere. Many of their posts, which I don’t have the space to link to here, merit reading: http://mitadmissions.org/blogs/c/best-of-the-blogs/
Finally, special thanks to all those who helped me through the admissions process, and those who gave constructive feedback in the writing of this guide!

Saturday, April 7, 2012

(信仰)怎样的亲子教育更有效 ZT

http://www.faithfuleye.com/simp/node/2540

圣经 基督徒 孩子教育

以基督信仰浅析中国式教育



【编者按:“80后”早期的开路先锋韩寒高中阶段因不满现行的教育体制而退学引起广泛争议,09年高考前夕,重庆某考生为反抗教育不公而自杀……时至今 日,竟看到越来越多的“90后”普遍存在厌学心理,在应试教育的环境中,逐渐失去人生价值的定位,与父母的代沟也日益明显。“儿女是耶和华所赐的产业” (诗127),作为基督徒,我们应该如何以神的道治理我们的家,以圣经原则管教下一代?这是我们需要思考的问题。本文权作抛砖引玉,以期让每个家庭都在真 理与爱的维系中得以重新建立。】



我们需要怎样的亲子教育?



他的手掌重重地落在年仅四岁的女儿脸上,小孩便一直哭闹。为了什么原因?聚餐中,孩子渴望多喝一点饮料,在座的都是长辈,气氛当然喧嚷。爸爸忍无可忍,做出了这样的举动。以致于过后的责备,充斥着整个过程。



我知道,这又是一次严重的家庭灾难。将此看作一种灾难,其实没有一点夸大其词。虽然他的意思是:为了管教孩子,同时为了挽回在人前的尊严,但是给孩子的心 灵,必定会留下严重创伤。她无法用恰当的语言表达,只能在哭闹中,显示出心灵受伤的委屈。很长时间过去,她的小脸还是一片红晕,让人好生心疼。



我认为,不应采取此类方式管教孩子。



第一:这是早熟的一代。她们心灵的早熟完全出乎我们的预料。孩子在未成年时经历的一切,都会对她们的心理成长产生影响。也许幼儿园老师一句鼓励的话,会成为孩子一生努力的标竿;来自家长一句失去理智的责备,会严重挫伤孩子的自信心,导致自卑与自闭心理。



第二:对待一个年仅四岁的小女孩,采取这样暴力的做法显然不妥,无论家长以什么立场。她们是天真无邪不谙世事的,在餐桌或其它场所,任何人都不会刻意指责孩子任性的举动。当然,管教是另当别论。



合理的教育既非溺爱,也非暴力教育,而是充满智慧之爱的教育。有很多理由告诉我们,他的举动过于鲁莽了。当小孩逐渐感受到父爱的缺失,最危险的后果也许已经酝酿。



很多孩子在成年之后,往往会出现许多心理问题,心理问题的“变质”,引发出偏激而危险的行为导向,如清华学子刘海洋泼熊事件,马加爵杀人事件等等。追根究底,这些问题,其实早在他们童年,乃至于青少年时期就被深深埋藏。



目今,出现太多未成年人犯罪案例,与他们在青少年时期没有得到正确而智慧的教育,有不可分的联系。每当我看到那些在铁窗内的年轻生命,便想到了许多。



我发现,为什么在中国,家长和孩子之间难以达成共识:我们几乎不可能有成为朋友的可能。中国式的教育中,孩子眼中的父母是独裁式的家长,他们没有温暖的情 怀,没有慈善的理念,也没有非常人性化的教育。他们期望子女言听计从,往往认为自己代表独一的真理,人世间的所有真理都被大人掌握,孩子只能无条件地听从 他们,从此失去了自主意识,不具备思想自由的权利,失去了属于自己的私密空间。



我的某异性朋友中学时与男友离家,数月未归,其父母颇带有“独裁式管制教育”的色彩,其家庭教育的失败,影射出中国式亲子教育不被真理引导而产生的一系列根源性问题。



对于中国式缺乏真理的亲子教育,巴金在《家》里完成了一次宏观的集体性反思。“觉慧”、“觉民”、“觉新”都取“觉悟、自省”之意,他们渴望个体的自由与 新世界、新理想。而作为家族真理代表的高老爷在氏族社会中拥有愚昧而强大的主导力量,由此导致家庭的冲突和社会的冲突,最终酿造时代悲剧。



家庭是培育孩子健全人格与完整思想体系的第一学府及第一社会,倘若一个家庭中没有真理、自由、平等、博爱,对孩子造成的负面影响,带来的心灵创伤则十分巨大。



对比西方民主社会的亲子教育,以圣经为终极真理的思想观念深深维系着父母与子女之间平等、互敬、互谅、互爱的亲情纽带,“你们作儿女的,要在主里听从父 母,这是理所当然的。要孝敬父母,使你得福,在世长寿。这是第一条带应许的诫命。你们作父亲的,不要惹儿女的气,只要照着主的教训和警戒养育他们。”(新 约圣经·以弗所书)。圣经作为千千万万个西方家庭的必备经典,是一个家庭和谐、美满、喜乐、自由的根基,他们共同站立在上帝的真理面前,除此之外,没有绝 对完美的个体,“圣经都是上帝所默示的,于教训、督责、使人归正、教导人学义都是有益的,叫属上帝的人得以完全,预备行各样的善事。”(新约圣经·提摩太 后书)。



耶稣史无前例地宣称他是道路、真理、生命;耶稣宏观的生命形态已囊括了真理的各样范畴;在耶稣的国度,为人之父学会谅解、自省、付出、与宽恕;为人之子也必然懂得谅解、自省、付出、与宽恕。如此,便成功塑造一种健全而美满的亲子教育,上帝的真理维系着彼此之间的情感交融。



祈祷耶稣的真理与生命,在目今所及的当下,在并不遥远的未来,走向千千万万个中国家庭,每一个家庭,都将绽开一朵自由、光明、且满含笑意的花蕾。



在上帝的爱中肯定自己



梦凡今年读初二,临近开学,容易陷入焦虑和紧张状态,甚至意欲辍学。我一直关注未成年孩子的心理成长。孩子在未成年时期的心理发育,对其今后的人生有至关 重要的影响。与梦凡交流,能够感受到她的自卑感,她的自卑直接来源于“分数未上线”,在学校不被认可。我看到,在中国目前并不完善的应试教育的体制下,很 多学生都会被动式陷入类似的心理困境。



应试教育根植于功利心态:考试和分数成为衡量一个学生潜在价值的唯一标准,由此导致成人世界片面而扭曲的价值观:金钱是衡量一个人潜在价值的唯一标准,因而使社会脱序,商业贸易各领域缺乏最基本的诚信,以致悲剧泛滥。



应试教育完全以分数论成败,以考试断英雄,素质教育的本质仍然属于应试教育。人们将“素质”片面理解为“考试素质”,却忽略了其余层面更重要的基本素质, 如:心理素质、道德素质、思想素质、以及人格素质。忽略这些,便酿造了马加爵、刘海洋的悲剧事件,也出现了中国政法学子的弑师案。中高考因一分之差,断送 了无数学子的人生理想,令多少贫寒的家庭陷入困境。至于孩子作为一个鲜活生命所急需的人格培养、以及自身的人性闪光点,却被严重忽略。



比如梦凡,她特立独行的思维方式、对弱势群体的深切怜悯,与同龄女生相比,表现出相当的成熟,读初一时,被选为班长,其组织能力和协调能力得到肯定,初二时因为成绩功课的“暂时性漏洞”,让她产生心理自卑感,其亲情关系、师生关系、心理健康,或多或少受到影响。



凡是心理自卑的人,心灵处于非自由状态,被外界事物奴役,因此无法发现自己、认识自己、肯定自己,并最终超越自己。



对于梦凡,目前并非急于采取恶补以提高她的学习成绩,而是帮助她发现自我、肯定自我,并建立信心,应该尝试以基督信仰的伦理让她从“酱缸文化”中得到解放,开拓属于自己的新天地。



刘墉在《肯定自己》的教育读本中写道:“每个人应当从小就看重自己,在别人肯定你之前,你先得肯定自己。”类似的自我肯定在无神论的教育环境中,往往导致盲目的心理自大,因为在肯定之前,缺乏自我认知。



为了纾解梦凡的心理阴影,我与她分享了上帝与人的关系。



第一:任何生命,都不是一个偶然的存在。你的生命源自上帝,你无须再因“进化论”的诱导而逐渐对生活失去信心,对生命失去热爱。上帝在光明之中,每一道光 线出自于他,由他照亮了整个世界。你是世界的一部分。你的生命是上帝爱的一部分。你不是为了考试而存在,也不是为了其它事物而存在,你是因为上帝而存在, 你的生命因爱而有,你是为爱存在。



你的生命本身是独特的,这种独特性不被任何事物局限或贬低。《独立宣言》最新译文中,人并非“生而平等”,任何生命降临,势必因为家庭环境、经济条件、外 貌长相的不同而本质不可能平等,但因为“受造而平等”,上帝赋予一切生命以追求幸福、自由、光明的权利,上帝以超越人类之爱的爱,爱着每一个人。



也许你并不美丽、聪明、和富有,或生理有一点点的残缺,但都无法阻碍上帝对你的爱:“上帝啊,你已经鉴察我,认识我。你从远处知道我的意念。(诗 139)”上帝对你的爱包括你的不可爱,你的失败、软弱、痛苦、和忧愁,他仍然无条件地爱着你。因为上帝是爱,你是他眼里杰出的创造。他创造你的那一刻, 运用了最卓越的智能。你必须明确一项重大事实:在你没有肯定自己之前,或者,当人们否定你的时候,上帝已经肯定并完全接纳了你。你的生命本身即是宇宙间恢 宏而壮烈的神迹。



第二:你必须在地球上给自己一个定位。你虽不完美,然而上帝赋予每一个生命不同的潜力与恩赐,你无须因为成绩的滑落而自卑。



功课方面,寻求上帝赐你智慧,尽你所能,但尽量保持快乐、友爱、完整的心灵。当你具备完整的心灵,你会在上帝的带领中发现自我,与室友和睦相处,日渐学习处世为人的基本智慧,这是你日后的最大保障。



永远记住:即使遭人唾弃的乞儿,上帝同样赋予他们尊严。任何人的存在,皆有其特定的“使命”。上帝更看重一个人的“内在成就”:诸如苦难中感恩,孤独中自省,和绝望中守望。他希望你在人生的每一个阶段,站立在心灵的地平线上,前方将是荣耀的曙光。



第三:希望你在《阿甘正传》与《给我三天光明》中获得启迪。你会看见:上帝如何在一个残缺的生命身上,彰显他毫无保留的爱与智慧。



除此之外,你仍然需要感恩。你的物质生活已相当富足,获得喜悦和信心的最佳方式,是将所拥有的十分之一奉献给一位乞儿,并为他的生命祈祷。

听斯坦福学生说:How To Get Accepted Into Stanford(ZT)



How To Get Accepted Into Stanford



<(Written by Feross Aboukhadijeh, a computer science student at Stanford University)




About once a month, I get an email from a student in high school (and sometimes middle school) who wants advice about how to get accepted at Stanford.

They want to know what they should be doing to prepare for college applications – what clubs they should join, what sports they should play, and what activities they should get involved in. They want to learn the “secrets” that will make themselves appealing to admissions officers.


There is No Silver Bullet


The truth is that there are no “secrets” that will get you instantly accepted at your dream college, be it Stanford or any other college. The college admissions process is really, really random. I have friends who got into incredibly good schools but were rejected from much “easier” schools. College admissions depend on lots of details and circumstances that are just really out of your control.

However, all is not lost. I have a few tips (they are really just patterns that I’ve noticed) that should increase your chances of getting accepted at Stanford.


Stanford Admission Tips


It’s hard to say exactly what Stanford is looking for, but I’ve noticed that most Stanford students (especially techies and engineers) have several traits in common.

1. Love of learning. Every Stanford student I know loves learning for the sake of learning. That is, they want to learn stuff not to make money, not to get a good job, not to impress teachers, but because they genuinely enjoy learning new things.

2. Curiosity. If you don’t understand something, do you just accept it and move on? Or do you insist on finding out the answer, researching it online, and trying to teach yourself if necessary?

3. Risk-taking and Entrepreneurial. Have you ever attempted something which seemed impossible? Or, have you put a substantial amount of time into a personal project that had a significant chance of failing? Even if your project ultimately fails, the fact that you frequently take risks and try to do stuff that’s innovative puts you in a whole different category than most people.

4. Independent. Stanford students are generally independent thinkers. They read broadly and form their own opinions about politics, philosophy, and life. They aren’t bothered when their opinion differs from the majority’s. In fact, they often go out of their way to learn about the other sides’ arguments.

5. Passionate. What do you love to do? When I was in middle school, I wanted to know how websites and the Internet worked. So, I decided to teach myself. I learned by reading articles online, skimming chapters from programming books at Borders whenever my parents visited the store, and through trial-and-error. I got hooked. I’ve been obsessed with the Internet ever since. You should find a passion and become an expert at it.

6. Highly motivated. It’s not enough to “want to change the world” or “bring about world peace” or whatever other lofty goals you can come up with. You have to actually do stuff. What have you done so far? If you’re an engineer, you should build stuff — websites, games, tech demos — on your own or at school.

7. Athletic. You need to play sports. It’s okay if you’re not the next Michael Jordan or Steve Prefontaine. As long as you’re committed, passionate, and improving your game (or track times), then you’re a student-athlete, which means you can balance multiple commitments and manage your time well.

You can make yourself stand out by trying to develop these personality characteristics, or if you already have them, by emphasizing them in your application.


Essay Tips


The best advice I can give you about essays is to let your voice shine through in the essay. Don’t let your parents, teachers, or whoever else you get to proofread your essay edit out your personality. You want to be a little bit risky and edgy. Don’t try to be overly formal and academic.

Remember to make it interesting. You need to tell a story about your life. It should be compelling and genuine. The admissions officers need to feel like you are a real person that they would want to meet and even hang out with.

In my own essay, I talked about how I’ve always been fascinated by technology and computers ever since I was a kid. I give a lot of credit to my parents and talk a little bit about my childhood. I also talked about my goals and dreams.

Be careful here, though. If you spend too much time talking about your goals and dreams without justifying how you’ve already started taking steps to achieve these dreams, then you’ll seem like you’re all talk. For example, I wouldn’t say “I want to end world hunger and poverty” unless you’ve already done stuff in high school that works towards achieving these goals. If you’ve got the goods to back what you’re saying, then you’re in good shape.


What are my chances?


Lots of people I know thought that it would be impossible to get into Stanford — that they were not good enough, or that they wouldn’t be able to afford the tuition even if they got in, or lots of other excuses that they invented. So they didn’t apply.

It’s true, Stanford is really difficult to get into (the latest stats say that 7.2% of applicants get accepted – it was 9.5% when I applied). But that’s why it’s worth trying for!


You Miss 100% of the Shots You Don’t Take


Like I said before, the admissions process is really, really random. It’s worth applying just because of that fact alone. You’ll never know if you don’t apply.

In addition, a lot of the other issues like unaffordable tuition isn’t an issue anymore, because financial aid is so great these days. Stanford meets 100% of your “calculated need” — which is really awesome. 87% of Stanford students receive some type of financial aid.

Long story short, definitely apply.


Conclusion


So that’s it. Those are my Stanford admissions tips and other assorted ramblings. I wish you the best of luck in the admissions process. I know how scary this time can be, but it all works out in the end. Good luck!

Now that I’ve written this up, I’ll finally have a page to point people at when they ask for Stanford tips.

根据亲身经历谈谈AP以及提前毕业的利与弊(ZT)


应各长辈位要求,将之前一回帖单独发出来,顺便再补充点。以下内容是根据我在UCB这四年的经历写的,某些方面应该也适用于其他学校。
在UC里面,AP的学分是绝对100%接受的,但是这不代表所有的课都能有用。
1、120个学分是毕业的最基本要求,这个要求确实可以用AP来满足。例如你带了40多个AP学分,在学校修了80个,那么你就满足了学分要求了。我当年就是带着44个进来的。
2、关键问题在于学分要求对于大多数 学生来说一直不是什么难题。4年,8个学期,120学分,每学期平均15个学分,并不怎么困难。通常阻止正常或者提前毕业的都是都些其他要求,如专业课要 上完,英语课要上等。而这些课程不是全部都能用AP课程换的。例如,我当年AP物理考了4分,最后被转换成了3.4个(具体数字忘了)UC学分,但是这个 学分仅能用来满足那个120个学分的要求,学校物理专业的基础课我一堂都少不了。
3、因为如此,当年我那13门AP,到头来真正直接派上用场的,只有微积分,那个还是BC考了5分才让跳过基础的微积分课程。
4、AP对学生真正的帮助,不是那些课程,而是那种知识储备与学习方式,能让后来大学的课学得相对轻松。这种受益持续一生。还有其他一些细小方面的帮助,如可以早点正式进入某专业,选课比同学稍微早一点点。
5、最后说下3年毕业。如果真要这么 干,即使没有AP课程,理论上也行。每学期上20个Unit,暑假12个,不要命的玩。其实最后其实没什么特别划算的地方。雇主看到你3年毕业,也许会赞 叹你厉害,但是也可能担心你基础不牢靠。和同学在一起的时间少了一年,这也是损失。最重要的是,伯克利的教授都是坑人的,不可轻视,为了3年毕业每学期憋 一大堆课,下场通常很悲剧。我有亲身经历,血的教训。
6、如果AP课上得多,那么最好的策 略就是利用起步快的特点,早点上完专业课,毕业前再上点研究生科的课,搞个Honors什么,跟教授一起做点研究弄点成果,或者搞个双学位都行,不管怎样 都比3年赶鸭子上架出来要划算得多。3年急着出来,GPA很难保证,到时候无论是找工作还是考研都挺麻烦。

7、我见过唯一一例想提前毕业的,是一位读英语专业,想早点出来工作养家。孝敬父母之心值得尊敬,但是如果家里有那么点经济条件的就没必要逼孩子提前毕业了,这一年省下来的学费最后很有可能抵不上因为成绩受损而带来的工资损失。

Friday, April 6, 2012

娃娃求领养一个月

小双最近上了一个新的学校,真是happy,和其他的学校风格很不相同,注重实践,动手能力,但没有作业。这个学校校训是:我听,我就忘了;我看,我就记住了;我做,我就明白了。

最近在学校读一本书,《The Adventures of Flat Stanley》,为了加深理解,他们读完书后,用纸板做了两个小纸娃娃Stanley,然后要给这两个纸娃娃分别找两个小主人,小主人要带着Stanley参加自己各种各样的活动,写下来你都带着Stanley去哪里了,Stanley的旅游见闻,能照点照片就更好了。

这个小小纸娃娃Stanley和新的小主人的旅游见闻,要在5月4日之前寄回来。

刚开始,学校说要Stanley在加州旅游,现在说,哪都可以了!!

你的孩子愿意领养小纸娃娃Stanley吗?这对孩子来讲,真是一个很好的锻炼机会呢,不过家长也要跟着费点心就是了,如果你想领养小纸娃娃Stanley,请留言,我把小纸娃娃和信寄给你,谢谢你的帮助!

Monday, April 2, 2012

选择

选择浮华,你就浮起来,
选择单纯,你就落下来。

选择虚荣,你就夜不寐 
选择清静,你就鼾声响。

选择平和,你就有定性,
选择争斗,你就有躁动。

选择自己,自己选择,
平和一日,日日平和。